New hair Drama

The other day I went to the BSS to get some hair.
I had an event to do for the weekend and wanted

to look as fabulous as possible I guess. I had been wanting to do the Brandy/Patra/Justice braids for a while now. But I had never done it before and was a lil weary of how they would turn out. Well I went and purchased about 3 packs of bulk hair which were very inexpensive a pack. As I began to braid my hair I noticed two issues one: my natural hair was too dark. I used to be a 4 but I guess my hair is now a 2 because of it's natural state. I have no idea. And my second issue was this hair kept tangling up. It was like I having a fight with this hair and I was losing big time. Growing so frustrated I just gave up and decided Ok time to return the hair. Luckily I was able to exchange the unopened packs for Nyx Lip gloss, which I just love btw. So I decided to straighten my hair in the front and rocked my usual half wig. After straightening my hair so much in the front I decided to wear a protective style for at least 3 weeks...maybe. An invisible sew in with human hair. I haven't upgraded to Remy or Indian yet. This is a great protective style esp if you are a beginner in transitioning, it will prevent you from too much manipulation.

Pynkstarr
Forever blessed

✝Transitioning your life for God or others?✝

Hey Ladies,

Hope you all are having a fabulous safe weekend.

This week has been so hectic to the point where my whole life plan is in question. What am I really supposed to be doing right now in my life? That is the question I have been asking myself since I graduated college. Should I go on to pursue more endeavors or should I stay in school. Maybe get that perfect straight out of college F.T. job.

This wasn't my case. I had prayed for a place that was all of these qualities:

Had to have nice hours (9-5 ish)

Had to respect me as a person

Great benefits

Appreciative of my hard work

Good pay

Can't be sales/retail

Small family business

And most importantly; Location can't be too far.

I found all of these things in the place I am at now, or so I thought. I remember a manager once told me never let someone stop your money. Meaning no matter how hard a job is, stick with it. I think a lot of people don't understand what you go through until you are in the position. It's easy to tell some one to stay in a relationship that they are unhappy in. Or that friend that always say's "well if it were me" to everything, knowing dern well if it were them they'd do the same thing you are and feel the same way. My frustration isn't with the people, it's not really with anyone. My issue is what is it in my life that I need to change in order to be that successful person I know that I am destined to be.

If you have that kind of connection with God, then you can feel when you are doing the right thing and when you are doing the wrong thing. And something about hearing from this job said it was wrong. Then there was another part of me that said this was what you have prayed for, God has done this for you.

As blessed as I am for the support I have received from so many people, I have decided to make a new plan. And just like my hair, I'm taking a step to also transition my life. Because at the end of the day although I have this wonderful plan for my life, God is the one that is the main driver of the plan. I may think I'm in control of this, but He is the one that is really in control. Life is of course what you make it, but He holds the power in the end.

My new list is still the same except I added team work and family oriented to the list.

I hope that everyone who is having issues like this one, they take a moment to think about God, and what it is He is telling you to do. He is speaking to you, you just have to really listen.

~Pynkstarr~

Forever Blessed, never Stressed

Protectant style numero 1!--Curly sew in

Me in mid-sew in

Hey ladies

Finally gotten to the point where I am annoyed with my natural hair. Nothing to do with it anymore except twist outs. Which is hard to do because the back of my hair is shorter than the front so that style wasn't really working. Plus my new growth is becoming so noticeable that it is unwearable for me to wear at work. I love my natural curl pattern so far though. Beforehand I washed my hair using a Dr. Bronner's Magic Soap mixture I made. It was my first time using it too. And I loved the way it felt when I detangled my hair. Very soft and easy to comb through. I then conditioned and Denman brushed my hair using my Nexxus Conditioner. Afterward I did a big no-no and went straight to blow drying my hair w/o deep conditioning it. I know bad of me but I was so impatient and really wanted to start sewing and until I get a hooded dryer 35-45 mins was not an option. But I did use my hair protectant treatment as a heat protectant from the blow dryer....which I did leave on low...I usually keep it on high.
After that I started yo sewing. Then I ran outta thread. Of course right! So today I finally finished my sew in. Not sure how I'm gonna style it yet, something cute. Gonna keep this for 2 weeks I hope. Then I'm gonna start wearing another protectant style, something just to keep my natural hair safe while its in transition.
~Pynkstarr~


really not sure about the styling :(

research mishap!!-Don't believe the Hype

Hola Chicitas!!

Lately as you all may know, I have been exploring the realm of transitioning from relaxers to completely natural. Completely natural not necessarily meaning all "natural" or "organic" products. But no relaxers. For ever!!! I have been learning so much about different ingredients. I never associated looking at ingredients for my hair as I have for my skin. You hair doesn't break out when it doesn't like something. As far as my skin is concerned, I know what works and what doesn't but by brand and not by ingredient. I never thought that maybe the brand isn't the issue, maybe its the ingredient thats the issue. Doing google searches for a a curious 'transitioner' such as myself is epic #FAIL. I say this because being new to anything comes with learning from your mistakes. My major numero uno mistake, believing everything I hear and read. Second mistake is then to make new purchases of products that may or may not even work. I was lucky enough to catch myself last night from having a major break down.

I decided to research words on the backs of all my products. And when I say almost all my products caused some form of "Cancer" i mean it. There was something wrong with everything I own. My BF told me to breathe, relax, people say things on forums all the time. Thats when I realized how venerable I really was. Believing in the internet is a big NO NO.

So I have vowed to from now on when researching, don't believe the hype :)

Please if you are in transition, or even if you get relaxers, here are some tips:

1) Don't believe everything you read online, or what people tell you. Whether you know them or not. What works for your favorite youtuber/blogger may not work for you. What works for your parents may not work for you. And what may work for your brother's girlfriend's daughter's aunt's cousin's baby daddy may also not work for u. Do your OWN research. Make your OWN decisions based on your hair, skin, life, etc

The End

I love you all

~Pynkstarr~

Forever Blessed

Brand New, Brand New-hair regi #1

Hello out there in Blogger land

Since I have decided to transition into a natural look for the time being. I am trying a new hair wash regimen.

When I am attending the hair salon, I have no idea what she used. I have been attending the same salon since I was 5. She was so upset that my mom had put a relaxer in my hair. But in my moms defense even though I was 5 or 6, my head was in such pains from the constant pulling and burns from the hot comb. I would cry alll the time. So my mommy put in a kiddie kit. "Just for me". I loved it too. I looked just like the girls on the box. Maybe that's where my fascination with str8 hair came from.

Once I got old enough to was my own hair around 14 or 15 I purchased a book that suggested Nexxus and Dudley products. I plan on continuing to use these products because I love how my hair feels after. But these are my products I use listed below.

Shampoo: Nexxus Therappe luxurious moisturizing shampoo-$20.99

Conditioner: Nexxus Humectress Ultimate moisturizing conditioner.

Deep-conditioning:Lustarasilk Herbal Liquid Cholesterol Deep conditioning salon formula

Leave-in (just re-started using this)-Infusium 23 leave in treatment.

Curl activator: Lustrasilk Right On! and Soft Sheen Soft Care Free Curl

Scalp moisturizing: Dudley's Creme Press, and Dax Bees Wax

These are my new products and what I'll continue to use until I notice a texture difference.

But these are products I want to try.

Miss Jessie's Curly Pudding

KCCC

Carol's Daughter curling milk-something like that

Castor oil, veggie glycerin, coconut oil and natural Shea Butter- all being purchased at Whole Foods

Thanks again for all the support these last few months too...:)

~Pynkstarr~

Forever Blessed.

Am I ready for the Transition?

Hola Chicas

I can't help but be afraid of this journey I may or may not be taking. In a previous post, I mentioned that I may want to go natural but not exactly sure if I am ready to commit fully to being au natural. Full commitment to me means to give up perming for life!! No Perm forever! That was scary to me. I couldn't see myself being comfortable in the corporate world with "nappy" looking hair. I work in a fashion showroom and I wore my hair in the little curls for weeks until recently where I pressed my hair. Then I wore my cute short cut wig. My boss was like OMG you look so cute and I love your hair this way. What she really meant was "please stay away from the natural look because to me you look better this way". With my hair curly, people like my friends complemented me on it. But how did I really look to others, esp those in the corporate world.

Not being able to str8en my hair with a relaxer could alter how people looked at me. I am already African American, short, very skinny, and I live in the 'hood'. And now I'd have nappy hair.

I want to fully transition into natural hair though. It's sexy and cute and just less hectic then perming every other month. It is also more affordable to maintain. It costs me about $100.00 a month to get my hair done. Thats $1200 a year....now add tip and the occasional products you buy to style your hair. Thats almost $1500 a year in just hair care, services, etc.

So far in the past 6 months of natural curling, I have only spent no more than $20 on curl activator. Shampoos and conditioners, deep conditioners I already had.

My point is I am 75% ready to transition fully into natural hair. It's a mind thing. I have to psych myself out into realizing curly or kinky is ok, no matter where you live or work. It's who u truly are. If at any time I feel it affects my chances at a job or whatever then I'll just sew in or wear a wig. But for right now transitioning is in my future....YAY!!!

So if you are ready to go on a journey then take a look at yourself and make a change!!

~Pynkstarr~

Forever Blessed